I love arranging get-togethers for folks who’ll enjoy talking.
It’s been my all-consuming hobby pretty much since the day I left home for college, in 1986.
“The best lunch date of my life. We were there for two-and-a-half hours but could easily have stayed for five.”
…after the get-together I arranged for her and the
author of For Better or for Work, Meg Hirshberg.
The flavor of folks I try to introduce.
I’m interested in matching up anyone who’s palpably kind. But, when someone I know asks me for more specific criteria, I tell them to send me anyone they know who is:
- Palpably kind
- Highly tolerant of silly behavior (they don’t recoil at the thought of watching Monty Python for a half hour or having a 5-year-old tell them a poop joke)
- Word smart
- at least as interested in listening as they are in talking
Choosing from a giant pool of these five-faceted folks gives me a big head start. And that, in turn, enables me to introduce a lot more people.
How I match people up.
I’m constantly on the lookout for pairs of five-faceted folks located in the same city who have an abiding interest in common. It could be anything: wine, Thai cooking, Thelonious Monk, astronomy camping, chess, Paul Thomas Anderson films, off-the-dock fishing, Picasso.
As soon as I identify a pair, I start arranging a fun outing for them that revolves around their shared interest.
Picking up a momento or two from the gallery shop.
From gallery to gallery they go, throughout the day.
Why I do it.
Basically, I can’t help myself. I inherited the hobby, genetically, from my mom. Her profession was writing — often about friendship — and her pastime was gathering compatible people who’d enjoy talking.
This is my hobby.
There’s nothing in the world that’s more fun for me. So, if someone has sent you my way, and you’re wondering, there’s no charge or anything like that. It’s my pleasure!